Ibelongtothatclassificationofpeopleknownaswives.Iamawife.And,notaltogetherincidentally,Iamamother.
Nottoolongagoamalefriendofmineappearedonthescenefreshfromarecentdivorce.Hehadonechild,whois,ofcourse,withhisex-wife.Heislookingforanotherwife.AsIthoughtabouthimwhileIwasironingoneevening,itsuddenlyoccurredtomethatI,too,wouldliketohaveawife.WhydoIwantawife
Iwantawifewhowilltakecareofmyphysicalneeds.Iwantawifewhowillkeepmyhouseclean.Awifewhowillpickupaftermychildren,awifewhowillpickupafterme.Iwantawifewhowillkeepmyclothesclean,ironed,mended,replacedwhenneedbe,andwhowillseetoitthatmypersonalthingsarekeptintheirproperplacesothatIcanfindwhatIneedtheminuteIneedit.Iwantawifewhocooksthemeals,awifewhoisagoodcook.Iwantawifewhowillplanthemenus,dothenecessarygroceryshopping,preparethemeals,servethempleasantly,andthendothecleaningupwhileIdomystudying.IwantawifewhowillcareformewhenIamsickandsympathizewithmypainandlossoftimefromschool.IwantawifetogoalongwhenourfamilytakesavacationsothatsomeonecancontinuetocareformeandmychildrenwhenIneedarestandchangeofscene.
Iwantawifewhoissensitivetomysexualneeds,awifewhomakeslovepassionatelyandeagerlywhenIfeellikeit,awifewhomakessurethatIamsatisfied.And,ofcourse,IwantawifewhowillnotdemandsexualattentionwhenIamnotinthemoodforit.Iwantawifewhoassumesthecompleteresponsibilityforbirthcontrol,auseIdonotwantmorechildren.IwantawifewhowillremainsexuallyfaithfultomesothatIdonothavetoclutterupmyintellectuallifewithjealousies.AndIwantawifewhounderstandsthatmysexualneedsmayentailmorethanstrictadherencetomonogamy.Imust,afterall,beabletorelatetopeopleasfullyaspossible.
If,bychance,IfindanotherpersonmoresuitableasawifethanthewifeIalreadyhave,Iwantthelibertytoreplacemypresentwifewithanotherone.Naturally,Iwillexpectafresh,newlife;mywifewilltakethechildrenandbesolelyresponsibleforthemsothatIamleftfree.
我为什么想要一个妻子
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我属于人们称为妻子的那一类人,我是一个妻子。而且,并非偶然,我还是一个母亲。
不久前,我的一位新近离了婚的男性朋友出现在我的面前。他曾经有过一个妻子,当然,孩子跟了他的前妻,他正在为自己重新物色一个妻子。一天傍晚熨衣服时,我想到了他。我突然萌发了我自己也要找一个妻子的念头。我为什么希望有个妻子呢
我希望有这样一个妻子,她不会喋喋不休地抱怨做妻子的义务来烦扰我。可当我感到需要解释我在学习中遇到难点时,我希望她能洗耳恭听。我希望有一个在我写完论文之后能替我打字的妻子。
我希望有一个对我的社交生活关照入微的妻子。当我和妻子应朋友之邀外出时,我希望有一个能对一切作出保姆般安排的妻子。当我在学校遇到喜欢的人想要款待时,我希望有这样一个妻子,她会把房子收拾得干干净净,会烧出一桌特别的美味佳肴,款待我和我的朋友们,当我们谈到彼此感兴趣的事情时她不会打断我们的雅兴。我希望有这样一个妻子,在我的客人们到来之前,为了不让孩子们打搅我们,她已经妥为安排,让孩子们吃过饭准备睡觉了。我希望有这样一个妻子,她能照料好客人的一应需求,使他们有一种宾至如归的感觉,她要确保他们有烟缸可用,能为他们送上餐前小吃,为他们添饭加菜,必要时还要替他们把酒杯斟满,还要按照客人的口味给他们冲咖啡。而且我希望有一个能理解我有时需要独自外宿不归的妻子。
我希望有一个对我的性要求反映敏感的妻子,一个当我有性要求时充满激情如饥似渴地与我做爱的妻子,一个能确实能让我得到满足的妻子。当然,我也希望有一个在我没有兴致时不主动提出性要求的妻子。我希望有一个能负起计划生育全部责任的妻子,因为我不想要更多的孩子了。我希望有一个对我性专一的妻子,这样我就不会因为争风吃醋而影响学业了。我还希望有这样一个妻子,她对我在性需求方面可能不会老老实实地严格遵守一夫一妻制能够表示理解。毕竟,我必须能够与尽可能多的人保持关系。
如果我偶然碰上一个比我现在的妻子更适合做妻子的人,我希望有休掉现在的妻子、重新另娶一个的自由。自然,我向往过一种新鲜的生活:我的妻子将抚养孩子,对他们全权负责。这样,我就可以无牵无挂。
当我完成学业找到一份工作后,我希望我的妻子辞掉工作留在家里,以便能够更全心全意得尽到做妻子的本分。
我的天啊,谁不想要一个妻子呢
Whyareyoupoor你为什么是穷人
Themostimportantthingtobecomingrichforyouistohaveamindsettowanttobecomerich.ThereasonIsaythatisthis,isbecauseIwantedtobecomerichwhenIplayedMonopoly,thatwas,Iwasnineyearsold.Thegreatestformulaforwealthisfoundonthatboardgame.WhenIwasnineyearsoldmypoordad,theschoolteachersays,“Ahputthatgameaway.Study,study,study!You‘rewastingyourtimeplayingMonopoly.”
Andmyrichdadsaidtheformula,“YoumustopenyourmindandseetheformularightonMonopoly.”Hesaid,“It‘srightinfrontofyou.”AndIwent,“What‘stheformula”AndfinallyIlearnedtheformulais,fourgreenhouses,redhotel,fourgreenhouses,redhotel.TodayI‘marichmanbecauseallIeverdidsincethetimeIwas24yearsoldwasbuyfourgreenhouses,sellthemall,buyaredhotel,fourgreenhouses,redhotel.Itisnot,thatyouhavetogotoschooltobecomerich.JustplayMonopoly;fourgreenhouses,redhotel.That‘sit.
Youmustlookathowpeoplebeforeyouhavebecomerich.Donottalktopoorpeople.Poorpeoplewilltellyou,“Ohit‘stoorisky.Don‘tdothat.Don‘ttakerisk.Saveyourmoney.Playitsafe.”Thatisapoorperson‘smindset.Youmusthaveanopenmindset,open.Andifyouhaveanopenmindsetyouwilllearnfromeverything.Ifyouhaveaclosedmindsetyouwilllearnfromnothing.SoIthinkthatisthemostimportantthing.
Thedifferencebetweenmoneyandwealth.
No,Idon‘thaveasalary.Ionlyhadajobfouryearsinmylife.Idon‘twantasalary.Themiddleclassandpoor,whattheywantishighincome.Theythinktheywantmoney.Buttheyhavenowealthbecausetheyhavenoassets.Youmustknowthedifferencebetweenmoneyandwealthbutthey‘renotthesamesame.Moneywillnevermakeyourich.Thismakesyourich.Ihavelargecompanies.Ihavelotsofstocks.Itradeoptions.Ihaverealestate,that‘swhatmakesmerich.SothemoneyjustcomesinwhetherIworkornot.
BillGatesmakes0,000ayear.That‘sall.Imakemorethanhim.That‘sallhemakesbuthe‘sworth40billion.I‘mtryingtotellyouthereisaverybigdifferencebetweenincome,moneyandwealth.SoIhavespentmylifebuyingassets,businesses,stocks,realestate,that‘swhatmakesyourich,notajob.ThereasontherichinAmericagetricheristheypassthisontotheirkids.Mypoordadalwayssaid,“Highpayingjob,highpayingjob,highpayingjob.”Andmyrichdadsaid,“Assets,assets,assets.”That‘sthedifference.
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我的富爸爸则告诉我这个公式∶“你必须开放思想,发现“大富翁”游戏里的公式。”他说∶“它就在你的眼前。”我问:“什么公式”最后我发现,公式就是:四座绿房子--一座红旅馆--四座绿房子--一座红旅馆。今天我之所以能成为一个富翁全是因为,从二十四岁时起,我就开始买四座绿房子,然后把它们全卖掉再买一座红旅馆,四座绿房子,一座红旅馆,如此循环。你并不需要进学校才能变得富裕。玩一玩“大富翁”吧:四座绿房子,一座红旅馆。就这么简单。
不,我没有薪金。我总共才有过一份工作,干了四年。我不想拿薪金。中产阶级和穷人所想要的是高收入。他们想要钱,但是他们没有财富,因为他们没有资产。你们必须清楚钱和财富之间的差别,它们并不是一回事。钱不会使你成为富翁,财富才能使你成为富翁。我有多家大公司,我有许多股票,我还有许多经营权。我有房地产,这些才是使我成为富翁的秘密,所以钱只是在我是否工作的时候才显得有意义。
比尔·盖茨一年只挣五十万美元,仅此而已。我挣的比他多。他虽然只挣那么些钱,但他的资产却有两百亿。我想告诉大家,收入、钱和财富之间是有很大差别的。所以我总是在买资产、做生意、买股票和房地产,这些才能使你变得富裕,而不是一份工作。在美国,富人变得更富的原因是他们将财富传给他们的孩子。我的穷爸爸总是对我说,“高收入的工作、高收入的工作、高收入的工作。”我的富爸爸则说,“资产、资产、资产。”这就是区别。
Theprimeconditiongreatsecretsofsuccess成功
Itiswellthatyoungmenshouldbeginatthebeginningandoccupythemostsubordinatepositions.ManyoftheleadingbusinessmenofPittsburghhadaseriousresponsibilitythrustuponthemattheverythresholdoftheircareer.Theywereintroducedtothebroom,andspentthefirsthoursoftheirbusinesslivessweepingouttheoffice.Inoticewehavejanitorsandjanitressesnowinoffices,andouryoungmenunfortunatelymissthatsalutarybranchofbusinesseducation.Butifbychancetheprofessionalsweeperisabsentanymorning,theboywhohasthegeniusofthefuturepartnerinhimwillnothesitatetotryhishandatthebroom.TheotherdayafondfashionablemotherinMichiganaskedayoungmanwhetherhehadeverseenaladysweepinaroomsograndlyasherPriscilla.Hesaidno,heneverhad,andthemotherwasgratifiedbeyondmeasure,butthensaidhe,afterapause,“WhatIshouldliketoseeherdoissweepoutaroom”Itdoesnothurtthenewestcomertosweepouttheofficeifnecessary.Iwasoneofthosesweepersmyself.
Assumingthatyouhaveallobtainedemploymentandarefairlystarted,myadvicetoyouis“aimhigh”.Iwouldnotgiveafigfortheyoungmanwhodoesnotalreadyseehimselfthepartnerortheheadofanimportantfirm.Donotrestcontentforamomentinyourthoughtsasheadclerk,orforeman,orgeneralmanagerinanyconcern,nomatterhowextensive.Saytoyourself,“Myplaceisatthetop.”Bekinginyourdreams.
Andhereistheprimeconditionofsuccess,thegreatsecret:concentrateyourenergy,thought,andcapitalexclusivelyuponthebusinessinwhichyouareengaged.Havingbeguninoneline,resolvetofightitoutonthatline,toleadinit,adopteveryimprovement,havethebestmachinery,andknowthemostaboutit.
Theconcernswhichfailarethosewhichhavescatteredtheircapital,whichmeansthattheyhavescatteredtheirbrainsalso.Theyhaveinvestmentsinthis,orthat,ortheother,herethere,andeverywhere.“Don’tputallyoureggsinonebasket.”isallwrong.Itellyouto“putallyoureggsinonebasket,andthenwatchthatbasket.”Lookroundyouandtakenotice,menwhodothatnotoftenfail.Itiseasytowatchandcarrytheonebasket.Itistryingtocarrytoomanybaskets,whichbreakmosteggsinthiscountry.Hewhocarriesthreebasketsmustputoneonhishead,whichisapttotumbleandtriphimup.OnefaultoftheAmericanbusinessmanislackofconcentration.
TosummarizewhatIhavesaid:aimforthehighest;neverenterabarroom;donottouchliquor,orifatallonlyatmeals;neverspeculate;neverindorsebeyondyoursurpluscashfund;makethefirm’sinterestyours;breakordersalwaystosaveowners;concentrate;putallyoureggsinonebasket,andwatchthatbasket;expenditurealwayswithinrevenue;lastly,benotimpatient,forasEmersonsays,“noonecancheatyououtofultimatesuccessbutyourselves.”
年轻人应该从头学起,担当最基层的职务,这是件好事。匹兹堡有许多大企业家在创业之初都肩负过重任。他们与扫帚结伴,以清扫办公室度过了企业生涯的最初时光。我注意到现在的办公室都配备了工友,这使我们的年轻人不幸丢掉了这个有益的企业教育的一个内容。不过,如果哪一天早晨清扫工碰巧没来,某位具有未来合伙人气质的青年就会毫不犹豫试着拿起扫帚。有一天,以为溺爱孩子的,时髦的密歇根母亲问一位男青年,是否见过像她的女儿普里希拉那样的年轻女郎如此潇洒地在房间里进行打扫。男青年说从未见过,那位母亲高兴的乐不可支。但男青年顿了顿又说:“我想看到的是她能在室外进行打扫”。如果有必要,新来者在办公室外进行打扫并没有什么损失。我本人就曾经是打扫人之一。
假设你们都已就业了,并干的相当出色,我对你们的忠告是要“胸怀大志”。对那些尚未把自己看成是某重要公司的合伙人或领导人的年轻人,我会不屑一顾。你们在思想上一刻也不要满足于充当任何企业的首席职员,领班或总经理,不管这家企业的规模有多大。你们要对自己说:“我的位置在最高处”你们要梦寐以求登峰造极。
获得成功的首要条件喝最大秘诀是:把精力和财力完全集中于所干的事业上。一旦开始干那一行,就要决心干出个名堂,要出类拔萃,要点点滴滴地改进,要采用最好的机器,要尽力通晓这一行。
失败的企业是那些分散了资力,因而意味着分散了精力的企业。他们向这件事投资,又向那件事投资,在这里投资,又在哪里投资,方方面面都有投资。“别把所有的鸡蛋放进一个篮子”之说大错特错。我告诉你们,“要把所有的鸡蛋放在一个篮子,然后照管好那只篮子。”注意走位并留点神,能这样做的人往往不会失败。管好并提好那只篮子很容易。在我们的国家,想多提篮子的人打碎的鸡蛋也多。有三只篮子的人就得把一只篮子顶在头上,这样很容易摔倒。美国企业家的一个错误就是缺少集中。
我把所说的话归纳如下:要志在顶峰,千万不要涉足酒吧,不要沾酒,或者仅在用餐时喝点酒;千万不要投机,签署支付的款项时,千万不要超过盈余的现金储备,把公司的利益当成自己的利益,取消订货的目的永远在于挽救货主,集中精力,把所有的鸡蛋放进一个篮子,支出永远小于收入,最后不要失去耐心,因为正如爱默生所说,“除了你自己以外,没有人能哄骗你离开最后的成功。”