youareasking,"isitpossibletobemarriedandtobefree"
ifyoutakemarriagenon-seriously,thenyoucanbefree.ifyoutakeitseriously,thenfreedomisimpossible.takemarriagejustasagame--itisagame.havealittlesenseofhumor,thatitisaroleyouareplayingonthestageoflife;butitisnotsomethingthatbelongstoexistenceorhasanyreality--itisafiction.butpeoplearesostupidthattheyevenstarttakingfictionforreality.ihaveseenpeoplereadingfictionwithtearsintheireyes,becauseinthefictionthingsaregoingsotragically.itisaverygooddeviceinthemoviesthattheyputthelightsoff,soeverybodycanenjoythemovie,laugh,cry,besad,behappy.
iftherewaslightitwouldbealittledifficult--whatwillothersthinkandtheyknowperfectlywellthatthescreenisempty--thereisnobody;itisjustaprojectedpicture.buttheyforgetitcompletely.andthesamehashappenedwithourlives.manythingswhicharesimplytobetakenhumorously,wetakesoseriously--andfromthatseriousnessbeginsourproblem.inthefirstplace,whyshouldyougetmarriedyoulovesomeone,livewithsomeone--itispartofyourbasicrights.youcanlivewithsomeone,youcanlovesomeone.
loveisthehighestvalueinlife:itshouldnotbereducedtostupidrituals.andloveandfreedomgotogether--youcannotchooseoneandleavetheother.amanwhoknowsfreedomisfulloflove,andamanwhoknowsloveisalwayswillingtogivefreedom.ifyoucannotgivefreedomtothepersonyoulove,towhomcanyougivefreedomgivingfreedomisnothingbuttrusting.freedomisanexpressionoflove.sowhetheryouaremarriedornot,remember,allmarriagesarefake--justsocialconveniences.theirpurposeisnottoimprisonyouandbindyoutoeachother;theirpurposeistohelpyoutogrowwitheachother.butgrowthneedsfreedom;andinthepast,allthecultureshaveforgottenthatwithoutfreedom,lovedies.youseeabirdonthewinginthesun,inthesky,anditlookssobeautiful.attractedbyitsbeauty,youcancatchthebirdandputitinagoldencage.doyouthinkitisthesamebirdsuperficially,yes,itisthesamebirdwhowasflyinginthesky;butdeepdownitisnotthesamebird--becausewhereisitssky,whereisitsfreedom
thisgoldencagemaybevaluabletoyou;itisnotvaluabletothebird.forthebird,tobefreeintheskyistheonlyvaluablethinginlife.andthesameistrueabouthumanbeings.