So,lookbeforeyouleap,discardcampusloveandmakeawiserdecisionaftergraduation.
Loveisthebaseofmarriage,andmarriageisthedevelopmentoflove.Inthepast,peopleusedtomarrywithouttheirownconsent,thatis,withouttheirownexperienceoflove,theparentsarrangedthemarriage.Twopersons,amanandawoman,whowereentirelystrangers,wereunitedinwedlock,andbecamehusbandandwife.Theyhadknownnothingofeachotherbefore,andofcourse,lovewasasealedbooktoboth.Thistypeofmarriageoftenleadstounhappiness.Tragicstoriesaboutill-matchedcoupleswereoftenheard.Soloveisthefoundationofmarriage,andamarriagewithoutlovewon’tbeahappyone.Andnowadays,withthedevelopmentofsociety,lovebecomesmorenoble,rich,fineandsubtle.Therefore,loveissometimesromantic;theloversdon’tpaytoomuchattentiontothetrivialofdailylife.Somepeoplefallinloveatfirstsightandrushintomarriage.Theyusuallyneglectthecommitmentamarriagedemands.Theymaycomeacrosswithsomeproblemsintheirmarriagethatislikelytoendupwithadivorce.Thisseemstoprovethatloveinamarriageisnotsoromanticasoneoftenimagines,butaspracticalasmutualrespectandcompromiseinthecommonlifeofafamily.
Familyinthissenseistheextensionofmarriage.Afamilybasedonamarriagemaylastifitfulfillsthefunctionofreproduction.However,nothingcanbemoreeffectiveforafamilytofulfillitsfunctionthanlove.Lovebetweenahusbandandawife,lovebetweenparentsandchildrenandlovebetweenallthefamilymemberscanpavethewayforallthefamilytoabrightfuture.Thefamiliesthatcouldsurvivethehardshipsanddevelopfromgenerationtogenerationarecharacterizedbyloveandharmony.
Inaword,loveisthebaseofmarriageandfamily.Onefamousmanoncesaid,“Inaworldofexistence,thereisindeednogreaterpowerthanthepoweroflove.”Inamarriage,loveneedstobemanifestedinacooperativeandsharingmanner.Andwithahappymarriage,thefamilywillbehappy.
Manypeoplealmostcrytheireyesoutwhenwatchingsomesoapplaysthrobbedwithlovethemes。Loveisthekeyelementthatleadsacouplebeforethesacredaltarofthechurch。
However,inthepast,manypeoplegotmarriedwithouttheirownconsentinChina.Theirmarriagewasarranged.Towpersons,amanandawoman,whowereentirelystrangers,wereunitedinwedlockandbecamehusbandandwife.Theyhadknownnothingofeachotherbefore,andofcourse,lovewasasealedbooktobothofthem.Thistypeofmarriageoftenledtounhappiness.Tragicstoriesofill-matchedwerecommonenough.
Nowadays,itisheldbymanypeoplethatoneshouldnotmarrywithoutlove.Amanandawomanmayfreelymakefriendswitheachother.Theydonottalkofmarriageuntiltheirfriendshiphasripenedintolove.Intheirmarriage,theymaytakeotherthingsintoconsideration,buttheyregardloveasthemostimportantthing.Thistypeofmarriageusuallybringshappiness.
Moreover,lovemaybeatemporarypassion,andthosewhoareinloveareoftenblindtootherthings,sothatwhatwecalllovematchesdonotalwaysresultinhappiness.Therefore,whileloveisrequiredbeforeamarriageisarranged,itisnottheonlythingrequired.
1.Doyouthinkmarriagesbasedonlovearemoresuccessfulthanarrangedmarriages
(1)Yes,Ithinkmarriagesbasedonlovearemoresuccessfulthanarrangedmarriages.Wecan’tbehappyifwegetmarriedwithoutlove.Althougharrangedmarriageswillgetthesupportofourparents,butmarrysomeonewedon’tunderstandisreallyterrible.Furthermore,arrangedmarriageshaveahigherdivorcerate.Inaword,marriagesbasedonlovearemoresuccessful.
(2)No,Ithinkarrangedmarriagesaremoresuccessfulthanmarriagesbasedonlove.Ourparentshopeustobematchedformarriage(门当户对),itcontainstheirloveforus.What’smoreTheyhavealotofexperienceoninsightintoothers,sotheycan’tbewrong.
2.WheredoyouwanttogotoprepareforyourmarriageAndwhy
(1)I’dratherstayathomethangoingoutformymarriage.Becauseitwillsavealotofmoneyforourfuturelife.Iwouldn’tlikethelifewithnomoneytouseafterthemarriage.
(2)Iwillchoosetospendmyhoneymoonsontravellingabroad.Itisthemostimportantdaysofmylife.Thebeautifulscenerywillbecomethemostunforgettableexperienceofmymemory.
Idon’tthinkso.Marriagebringsresponsibilitytothecouple,butitisnotthenecessaryreasontodestroylove.Manyoldcouples’lovecanproveallofthis,thecouplesmayhavedisagreements,quarrelsaftertheirmarriages.Butiftheyonlyputjudgementonthethingsinsteadofcomplaintingofothers,thebadthingswillgoawaysoon.Moreover,therelationshipwillbecomemoreintimatebetweenthecouples.Thechildrenaretheachievementoflove.Withthechild,themarriagebecomesmorebeautiful.
4.DoyouacceptflashmarriagewhyorwhynotYes,becausewecantakethechancetohavethepersonwhoyoulikeverymuchatthefirstsighttobeourpartnerintime.Moreover,asweallknowinmoderntimes,timeisaveryimportantfactor,flashmarriagesavesmuchtimecomparedtothecommonmarriage.Meanwhile,incorrecttimerunintotherightpersonisthemostimportant,andthespeedofmarriageislessinfluentialinone’shappiness.Finally,whethertheloveofMarathontypecandefinitelyunderstandtheotherparty,candefinitelypromisemarriageoflastlonghappinessAppearantlytheanswerisnot.
No,Firstly,asinflashmarriagewedon’tlearnmuchabouttheother
part,soinsomedegreethemarriagewillnotlastlong,andthehappinessveryshort,buttheharmitdoestouscanbeverygreat.Also,somepersonswhoarefortheflashmarriagemayhavethepurposeofgettingthepartner’spropertyorsomeotherbenefits,sothatkindofhappinessisnottrue.whentheotherpersonfindoutthat,theemotionbetweenthetwopersonwillbelikelytobreak.Thus,theflashmarriagemayraisetherateofdivorce,andmakethesocietylessharmonious.Lastbutnottheleast,Iamatraditionalpersonandflashmarriagedisobeythetraditionofchina.
5.Whataretheimportantqualitiesinchoosingyourmarriagepartner
6.Whatdoyouthinkisthereasonwhichresultedtheincreasingdivorcerateinmodernsociety
A.Ithinkoneofthemostimportantreasonisthefinancialsituation.Aseconomicdeveloping,thepersonalincomingincrease,thefinancialdependencebecomeweakerandweaker,thatleadthedivorcerateincrease.Inthepastorsomepoverty-strickenareas,wherepeoplelivewithlowlivingstandards,tolivetogetherwillsavemoremoneythanlivealone,thedivorceratecouldbelow.So,aseconomicsituationimproves,thedivorcerateincreases.