摘录：每对夫妻都会说离婚，但大部分都不会离。然而当说的次数到达一定数量后，离婚就会变成真的了。
情感美文：婚姻生活中的八个真谛
1.Thebiggestthreattoamarriageisnotdeathorpoverty,itisthedailytrivialmatters.
经得起贫穷和生死考验的爱情，往往会输给平淡的流年。
2.Basingamarriageon“love”ONLYmaycarrymanyrisks.
婚姻不能光靠感情维系，应该有多种元素去平衡。
AsanadultIhavetosaythatmanyofusmaynotjustloveonepersoninourentirelifetime.Beforemarriage,wemighthavelovedsomeoneelse,whichisnotuncommon.Aftermarriage,itisalsopossibletobeattractedbysomeoneotherthanyourspouse.Basingamarriageon“love”ONLYmaycarrymanyrisks.Frommypointofview,agoodmarriagecontainsthefollowingelements:love,responsibility,understanding,effectivelistening,patience,appreciation,commoninterests,care,kindness,trust,fairnessandsoon.
3.Focusonchangingourselvesratherthanothers,uwillfindpeaceinyourmarriage.
对方是无法改变的，至少无法改变到你满意的状态。
Manyofustryveryhardtochangeothers,evenweclearlyknowthatitisnotnecessaryanditisimpossible.Sometimeswegiveupbutsoonwewillpickthebadhabitupagain.Itiswhywearguefromtimetotime(notjustwithourpartner,butwithsomeoneelse)。Ifwecouldtrulyaccepttheabovestatement,andfocusonchangingourselvesratherthanothers,youwillfindpeaceinyourmarriage.Ifyoucansuccessfulychangeyourself,thenyourpartnerwillnoticethatwithappreciationandhe/shemayrethinkwhathe/shehastochange,thenthingsaregoingtobebetter.Itisapositivecycle.Ifyoufailedtochangeyourself,whatcouldyouexpectothersdo
4.Ifyouhavesomesecrets,thenacceptthetruththatyourpartnerhashis/hers.
你总有不愿让对方知道的隐私，那就接受对方也有事瞒着你的事实。
5.Whenthenumberofstating“divorce”reachesacriticallevel,adivorcemaybecomeinevitable.
每对夫妻都会说离婚，但大部分都不会离。然而当说的次数到达一定数量后，离婚就会变成真的了。
细节决定婚姻长短——婚前的小摩擦，会变成婚后的大问题。
7.Loveandmarriagearelinkedbutitdoesnotmeanlovemustresultinamarriage.
婚姻必定需要感情作为奠基，而感情，却未必需要婚姻作为结局。
Agoodmarriagemustbeestablishedonthebasisoflove.Somekindoflovefeelingsmaynotendupinamarriage.Sopleaserealizethatloveandmarriagearelinkedbutitdoesnotmeanlovemustresultinamarriage.Loveisakindofchemicalreactionandemotionalreflection,whilemarriageismoretechnicalandneedsskills.Inaword,thebiggestdifferencebetweenloveandmarriageistheRESPONSIBILITY!
8.Astimegoes,responsibilitybecomesthemajorfactor.
Nowyoumaygetsomeideasaboutwhatamarriageentails.AllIcansayisthatagoodmarriagewoulddoubleyourhappiness,leadyoutoapositivefuture.Youcouldhavesomeonetorelyon;totalkwith;toshareyourlaughs;listentoyourcomplaints…Certainly,marriageisnotafairytale,ithassome“cruel”factsanditneedsourwisdomandcompromise.